How long are we going to pretend this isn’t a problem?
How many more divorces do we have to see to finally open our mouths?
How many more teenagers are we going to set up for disaster?
How many more wives have to suffer in silence because they think keeping this a secret will make it go away?

Personally, I’ve had enough. I’m stepping up to be part of the solution.

Parent’s- how long will you keep your head buried in the sand and try to convince yourself that your son is part of the 10% that don’t have a porn addiction? Go check out our parent’s page to find out what you can do to help.

Wives- are you ready yet to just acknowledge that this is the most cleverly designed trap to catch men that the world has ever seen? And if your husband happens to be part of the silent majority that struggle with pornography addiction, its time to get some help. For both of you. Visit our wives page to find out how.

Or maybe you’re the one with the problem. Can we be really honest for just a minute? (I know that’s not common these days…)

I don’t think you can get over this on your own. I couldn’t. And the thousands of people that have gone through my programs couldn’t do it on their own either. If you could have fixed this on your own, you would have done it already.

So let’s talk about what this is really going require. And let’s talk before you throw everything in your life away.

How many times have you tried to quit?

You know exactly what I’m talking about.
How many times have you finished looking at porn and said to yourself:
I am such a freaking dirtbag… I can’t believe I did that again. How did I let myself get caught in the cycle again? What’s the matter with me???
If my (wife, girlfriend, parents, friends, neighbors, church members…) knew who I really was, they would have nothing to do with me…
I know I always feel like crap afterwards, but in the moment, I start having these intense feelings, and its like I lose control and go on auto-pilot, and before I know it I’m opening up a site I said I’d never go to again…

How do you think I know how you feel?

I get it. Just like you, I was exposed to porn as a teenager and it lit a fire in me that I didn’t know how to put out. Even after years and years of not looking, I still had moments of cravings that I didn’t know how to handle. And when the internet came around, it was just too tempting not to take a little peek. And you know the rest of the story.

But who in the world wants to make a website that confesses this? I sure didn’t!

But when I watched one of my best friends get divorced because of a porn addiction that went unchecked, I had to open my mouth. Especially because I knew how to stop this.

How could I sit back silently and watch people’s lives fall apart when I had solutions that had worked for me and for hundreds of other people.

But the real question is: Are you ready to change?

I don’t think you are. I think you’re just checking out this site, looking for a magic pill that will make this all go away. Some silver bullet that will fix everything and require no effort on your part. (btw, good luck with that. I looked too, but it doesn’t exist.)

The good news is that when you’ve finally had enough, and you’re ready for REAL change, at least you know where to find it.

See, I studied personal development for 15 years. I read hundreds of book. I listened to thousands of hours of programs. I spent over $100,000 going to seminars and live events with some of the “gurus”. I hired some of the highest paid and most sought after coaches on the planet. All in search of the silver bullet. (did I mention that it doesn’t exist?)

The cool part was that I learned A LOT along the way. And I found things that really work to create change. Not the “presto-chango” magic wand crap. Real change.

It takes effort, and commitment and time. AND it works.

So many things opened up in my life as I learned these tools. I made a lot more money. My health improved. My marriage came alive after I had all but extinguished any love that was left.

I know it sounds like an infomercial for a Tony Robbins program. Sorry. It’s really what happened.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I still have had my share of challenges and failures. Some real doozies. But I like who I am today. And I accept where I am in life. And I couldn’t say that several years ago.

I started teaching these processes, and people began to hire me as a coach. And that was really eye opening.

Up until that point, I hadn’t told very many people about my struggles with pornography. I wanted to sweep it under the rug, and keep it in the past. But you know what I found? A lot of people had the same secret struggle. And they hadn’t told anyone about it.

So I started coaching people through recovery. And some of them got great results.

And then came the day I mentioned earlier. I was in the Los Angeles airport when I got the call. It made me so sick to my stomach, I couldn’t eat my lunch.

One of my best friends was on the line and he told me that he was getting divorced. I won’t go into the details because they have been through enough already.

But it all stemmed from a pornography addiction that had been a secret for years.

And that was when I knew I had to reach out.

Mahatma Gandhi said to “be the change you wish to see in the world”. And that’s what this site is about.

So what are your options?

I’ve been around the block in this area, and here are some of your options:

• Therapy (Get ready to pay- and you better find someone who specializes in pornography addiction)
• 12 Step Programs (You gotta make it public to participate)
• Online Video Courses (Here is one that is helpful)
• Our Programs (go watch the videos on our products page to find out more or if you like to read, click here)

What doesn’t work?

• Trying to change on your own. (Keep trying, and when you’re ready, come get some help).
• Making yourself feel really bad, shaming yourself to change.
• Pretending this will go away on its own.
• Using only willpower and not working to reprogram your brain.