Discover the 4-Step Process that Will Cure Your Craving By Actually Changing the Way Your Brain Creates and Processes Addiction “Chemicals”
But first, let me ask you a question…
And be really honest with yourself about this one:
How long have you pretended you could get over this compulsive behavior by yourself?
How long have you said: “That was the last time. I’m never going to do that again.”
Only to have that feeling of being back in the tempting situation and before you knew it, you completely gave up resisting and returned “like a dog to its vomit” and you looked again.
Its time to stop pretending. There is an anonymous way to get help. Help that actually helps!
Date: Saturday, July 3, 2010
You’re reading this because you’re feeling just about at rock bottom right now. You’ve been hiding a secret and it’s caught up to you. You wonder if you’ll lose everything you’ve worked so hard for…
The love of your wife or girlfriend…
Your family. Your friends. Your home. Your career.
Even your relationship with God or your spiritual community.
Your secret is that you have an impulse — a deeply-trenched longing and desire that you can neither explain or quench — to look at pornography.
You do it way too often. You do it so much, you’ve started to take risks in order to sneak it into your day.
You know how serious this is, and you’ve tried to stop. You’ve told yourself to cut it out. You tried to distract yourself with other activities. You’ve prayed and meditated on it and asked for inner guidance.
But nothing has helped.
And you’re here now because you’re at your wit’s end. You want to end this addiction once and for all, because you can feel it consuming you.
You want to be healthy and free of the craving. You want to feel good about yourself again. You don’t want to hide anything anymore. You just want to be normal and respected again by those you love. No more late night sessions at the computer. No more hiding your internet history or excuses and lies.
It’s time to heal from this shameful addiction once and for all, you’ve told yourself.
You’ve come to the right place. I can help you.
It has been 7 months since I looked at porn. I’ve never gone that long since I was 12 year old. Thank you thank you. This program worked to break the cycle and help me process what was going on with my emotions. One day at a time, I can do this.
You’re Not Alone.
I used to think that too…
I know you’re not alone in your struggle.
When I researched how many people are dealing with this problem I was shocked. One website said that a recent survey of Christian men said 50% of them had a problem with pornography addiction.
50%!! – (And you thought you were the only guy on the planet that’s addicted to porn).
So I began to wonder… why is this so wide-spread and insidious of a problem? And why, if they know how destructive this is to a marriage and family, are so many people having a hard time getting help?
And not just quick fixes. Not just temporary solutions. I’m talking change from within. Change that really means something. Change you can be proud of for a long, long time-even the rest of your life.
I did a Google search for “stop porn addiction”.
There are dozens of sites dedicated to helping people.
Some are put out by doctors. Some by churches. Some by people that want to help in breaking pornography addiction.
Why Other Sites I Found Online That Claim to “Help” Stop Pornography Addiction Made Me Want to Throw Up
I started reading the sites, and I got sick to my stomach.
Look, I don’t want to criticize people’s good efforts to help. They have stepped up in an effort to be part of the solution.
But here is what I saw over and over as ways these sites advise to stop porn addiction:
- Put the computer in a public place
- Don’t surf the web at night
- Put a limit on the amount of time you spend online each week
- Don’t go to chat rooms
- When you feel tempted, turn off the computer
- Know the signs of addiction and stopping them
- Feel really bad, or ashamed about it
- Commit to stopping the habit
They would have testimonials about their processes that sounded like this:
“I’m really glad I came across this. I am excited that this will help me in breaking porn addiction…”
“I’m going to start doing this stuff right away. Thanks for this information…”
A couple of them had fee based video programs that helped people through this struggle. They acknowledged in their site that watching videos online was very similar to the old habits. I couldn’t help but think that this might be really difficult for someone with this challenge.
I want to thank you. I was just thinking on Saturday as I was taking my walk, that I finally have the tools that I need to overcome this. I had a pretty bad craving in the morning and I had the opportunity to just feel it, ride through it, and let it pass. I felt great in the after noon. I feel that I am in the middle of a true change of heart. I am finally feeling the chains of this pornography addiction fall from me. My true personality is coming back. I am feeling love and a lot of other emotions again after a long period of dormancy. So thank you.
The internet is the place
where they struggle.
Could they be on the internet and watch videos for help and resist the old habits at the same time? That’s kind of like an alcoholics anonymous meeting being held at someone’s favorite bar while their friends are drinking next door.
Again, I commend them for their effort. They are doing something. But I was disappointed at the limited options for finding help.
One site had a blog where people could post comments. I copied some of the comments. I couldn’t believe how these people were out there struggling and the solutions offered were all quick fixes that most likely wouldn’t work.
“Try harder. Ask God for more self-control. Have more motivation and willpower.”
I wanted to throw up.
If self control was the solution, the people would have changed the habit years ago.
Trying to use tips and tricks as the solution to a deeply rooted problem is like trying to drive down a treacherous mountain and using only the guardrail to steer your car.
Sure, the guardrail keeps you on the road, but constantly crashing into it is no way to drive. It keeps you on the road, but destroys your car in the process. And as soon as there is a hole in the railing, your car goes off the cliff.
The goal is not just to stay on the road. It is to learn to use the brakes, and the accelerator, and the steering wheel. The guardrail is useful for moments when the car goes out of control or loses its traction. It can prevent a tragedy.
But to really experience driving, you must learn to use all of the available tools in the car.
Only then can the journey be enjoyed.
I have made more progress in the last 5 months to putting my porn addiction behind me than I have in the last 7 years. I had previously been addicted at 12, and was able to put it behind me at 17. I got married to my beautiful, amazing wife at 21. I was doing fine until I had a severe injury to one leg at 23 that gave me PTSD. During the resulting struggle with depression, I fell back into the trap. Mainly because I didn’t understand why I was using my addiction to deal with emotions of high stress and anxiety. And I have been ranging from several times a week using porn to masturbate to control my emotions to at least every 10 days for the last 7 years. I think until I started this program, the longest I had gone was 3 weeks without looking at porn and masturbating. Now that I’m understanding why I get the cravings, I think in the last 2 months I’ve only slipped up once. My walks have greatly helped, and I’m learning that I am absolutely horrible at slowing down and reducing the stress in my life. It is very hard for me to do things… slower. So I cannot tell you how grateful I am, your program has given me the tools to start to change myself fundamentally in ways that will bless me all my life. I have felt more free and at peace in the last several months than I can remember feeling in the last 7 years.
The phone call that changed my life…
and the shock at what I found Afterward!
Recently I received the gut wrenching phone call from one of my best friends that he was getting a divorce. I still remember where I was standing when he called. I couldn’t eat for a few hours. I couldn’t believe what he had told me.
He learned that his wife had been having an affair.
How could this happen?
As it unraveled, what came out was a story I have been hearing over and over. It started with a pornography habit that got out of control.
I knew the other person involved. This person had been struggling with this habit for 20 years and had never told anyone. He was the last person I would have suspected to have a problem with this. He looked so composed. Like he really had it together. He actively participated in his church. He was excellent at what he did at work. He had a gorgeous wife and family.
I began to ask myself questions.
Why hadn’t he reached out for help?
Now that it’s all out in the open, he has commented that he didn’t know where to reach out for help. It was too embarrassing to tell anyone he had a problem.
Oh, he had tried to quit for years. He had done everything he knew how to do. He felt really bad. He promised himself he wouldn’t do it again. And he would get cravings and go back. Each time it took a little more to give him the emotion he was looking for.
He crossed boundaries that he told himself he would never cross. He read scripture to distract himself. He asked God to take away the feelings. He even did several fasts, where he went without food and water for a day or two to learn to control his body. And he would go back.
Why couldn’t he stop?
Eventually he acted out on his feelings. Each time going a little farther. Each time crossing boundaries he told himself he would never cross. And then he had gone too far. He was in too deep. There was no turning back.
No one could believe it when everything was made public. His friends shook their head in disbelief. They said: “Of anyone, I never thought he would have a problem with it”.
As a trained coach and counselor, I wondered – aren’t there resources available to help people with this?
I started to do some research and I was shocked at what I found … or more accurately, DIDN’T find. I didn’t find ANYBODY with a permanent solution… REAL change within.
That was the moment that changed my life. Because that was when I decided that I could no longer sit back and watch families fall apart without sharing what I know about overcoming this. It is why I’m offering you help, and the reason you’re here right now, reading this letter.
(This guy eventually participated in one of my first programs to stop porn addiction, and the last time I talked to him he had gone 7 months without looking).
I hated that thoughts about looking at porn used to cloud my thinking. It was all I could do to distract myself from them. I didn’t think it was possible to stop these thoughts. They don’t own me anymore. I have my life back.
A few years ago I would have never believed this was possible. I can even see how the trials I had have helped me become a better person. Thank you for this process.
The Top 10 Methods Most Addicts Use to Stop Their Addiction That DON’T Work… Or Make Matters Worse
What have you tried to stop wanting to look at porn? If you’re like most men who can’t control their compulsion, you’ve probably done one or a combination of these:
- Beating Yourself Up
Trying harder or feeling extremely ashamed and guilty and promising yourself you won’t do it again.
- Distracting Yourself Through Scripture
While reading scripture is a great thing to do, it doesn’t work as a very good distraction. It should be a tool to draw closer to God and seek spiritual insights, not as the guardrail to keep the car from falling off the cliff. Using it as a distraction takes away the benefit of studying holy writings. And it does nothing to keep the “bad” thoughts at bay.
- Having Someone Monitor You
Whoever you chose for this task, it only increases your addiction. That’s because now you’ve introduced another person into your secret world, and if you fail, you’re even MORE ashamed than ever. So you try harder to hide it, but you still crave it.
- Eliminating the Internet
While sometimes necessary at the beginning, this is not the solution. The internet is not the problem. Deep unmet emotional needs and patterned behaviors of escape using the internet are the problem. If you want to fix the problem, eliminate the root. The branches and leaves take care of themselves.
- Mind Tricks
An example of a mind trick might be telling yourself you need to put on a suit if you are going to masturbate. The reason behind the trick is that if you have to take the time to put on a suit you will reason yourself out of the behavior by the time you get to it. Another is agreeing to read the Bible before masturbating. Again, a trick to try to get yourself to talk yourself out of the compulsive behavior. These rarely work long term – kind of like using the guardrail to steer your car down a mountain road. Pretty soon you’re out of control and destroying your car in the process.
- Punishing Yourself and Withholding Positive Outlets from Yourself
Feeling really bad only works until it feels worse to resist the cravings.
- Getting an Internet Filter for the Computer Without Addressing the Emotional Unmet Needs
When the craving comes back, you’ll just find other ways around it or you’ll start to use another (more risky) computer. Like at work. While I highly recommend getting a filter, this does nothing to stop the cravings.
- Moving the Computer to a Public Space in the Home
Not in a den or bedroom. This just means you’ll look at porn in the middle of the night, or when your family isn’t at home. Or, you’ll sneak it while everyone’s watching TV or otherwise distracted, which adds to the risk of exposure. (You should do this for your kids sake, but it won’t take away the cravings.)
- Putting up Inspirational Pictures or Quotes Near the Computer
You’ll just ignore or “block out” the quote or photo when the craving gets bad enough. A picture of Jesus next to the computer isn’t a long term fix.
- And Finally, Trying to Change This on Your Own, in Secret.
Please! If that worked, you would have fixed this a long time ago!
Think about it — in order to find healing, we need to create an emotionally stable place from which to begin.
During temptation, the limbic system of the brain actually sends chemicals to cloud out the frontal cortex of the brain (that’s that part where we think rationally). If someone is being tempted, its almost impossible to learn at the same time.
Some people have gotten great results from online video courses, and everyone should celebrate that. But so many have commented to me that it was just too much temptation to sit online that long.
Why I Knew I had the Answer No One Else Had
I decided if I can be part of the solution, I would share what I have learned.
I have spent thousands of hours one on one with people in the most private and vulnerable aspects of their lives, helping them to experience what they wanted in life. And I only got paid if I got results for the clients.
Therefore I had to figure out what worked, and what didn’t – And quickly!
I noticed an interesting trend as I took people through the process you are going to experience. Habits that had plagued them for years started to change. When they worked with me, even though they didn’t initially hire me to help them with compulsive behaviors, they would begin to get better control of those behaviors.
One client had struggled with compulsive feelings around pornography since he was twelve. This went on for almost 20 years. It was something that he was ashamed of, but he kept going back. He hired me to take his business to the next level, not to work on his bad habits.
Another client told me:
“There came a point in my life where I realsized that I was not facing reality and trying to find ways to escape. My life continued to spiral downward as my craving for ‘whaterever’ was becoming unhealthy. What I didn’t realize was that there were so many other people in the world that have had similar experiences… food, alcohol, sex, ‘the internet’… the cravings seem to get worse as the years passed.
Then, I found out about “Cure The Craving”, a program that really talked about the exact challenges that I was experiencing in my life. Tony seemed to so clearly understand what steps needed to be taken to stop the vicious cycle of avoiding reality. Through seemingly simple exercises my life has been completely transformed. I am try grateful for this program and the difference it has made in my life. Thank you Tony, from the bottom of my heart.” (T.R. — February 2009)
But something interesting happened. He went through the process you are going to experience, and he started to be more balanced in his life. People would see him, and ask him what had changed in his life because he looked different. He knew the answer. He was living in harmony with his inner voice and his life had clarity and purpose.
After he went through this process, he told me about the habit from the past, and that he hadn’t viewed pornography for more than a year. Even though he had earned over twenty thousand dollars that month, his freedom from porn addiction was worth more to him than any amount of money.
A few years later, I saw him at his wedding, and he had created a healthy, loving relationship and was moving forward with the life he really wanted to live.
I could go on and on with similar stories. What did they all have in common?
These clients all took the car and steered it and used the gas and the brake pedal to ease it down the hill. They didn’t use the “quick fix” of the guardrail. They made changes from WITHIN…
And that’s when I knew I was onto something.
A few months ago you worked with a group of us via telephone and gave us a bonus of your CD’s to improve our lives and help us to have a more planned and successful future. (Rooted in core values.) Thank you for doing this thing for me…this was more important than any other course I’ve taken. I have still been listening to that recording which was emailed back to me, daily. Also, I have needed to keep adding onto the written, because I keep finding areas that I want to improve in. This thing which you prepared for me will have an impact on many generations, even if we only count myself. Thank You My Friend… even though you don’t know me… I appreciate you helping me.
Applying Breakthroughs in Brain Science — Why the methods I use give a PERMANENT SOlution… and the problem with the Gap.
These clients took the steps to clear out the emotional junk from the past, and took action in the process you are going to experience. When they did this, the old patterns shifted and they began to experience what they really wanted in life.
So if change is this easy, why haven’t more people moved past their old habits and into the life they dream is possible?
The Answer is Between your Ears. Your Brain.
See, your brain’s job is to keep you alive. Not to keep you successful, or happy, or even healthy. It is designed to keep you alive.
Part of the way it does this is by constantly creating equilibrium or balance in our environments. An example of this is when someone smokes. Initially, the body resists the chemicals that come with tobacco.
But because most people don’t listen to their bodies when they smoke, the brain eventually says:
“All right, it looks like we are going to have to deal with all of these chemicals, so let’s create equilibrium with them”.
The brain deals with it, and learns to survive.
Then when the person realizes one day that smoking doesn’t serve them anymore, and they decide to quit, the brain says:
Whoa! Wait a Minute, We Want Our Old Chemicals…
The body and brain will then do everything in their power to restore that equilibrium. They will create all kinds of emotions to get things back to normal. Anxiety, craving, depression, fear, you name it, the body and brain will throw it out there.
And if the person resists the emotions long enough to get through what I call “the gap”, the brain will eventually create equilibrium again with the new environment.
It’s this gap that keeps most people from changing. They attempt to change, and their brain resists it. As soon as they run into the emotions of resistance, they go back to the old behavior, even though it doesn’t serve them.
Further down, you’ll find out HOW I deal with “The gap” in a way that is EFFECTIVE; a way no-one else does.
The brain studies have shown that the brain releases all kinds of chemicals while someone is viewing pornography. Several endorphins are released, including adrenaline, serotonin, and dopamine. This is similar to what happens when someone uses cocaine. Did you hear that? Chemically, it’s very similar to using cocaine!
I struggled with this for 17 years. I tried all kinds of stuff to stop, but I would always give in again. The things I learned in this process, like understanding my stress levels, and what cravings mean in my body, have made it so I haven’t looked at porn in almost a year. But not only that, my emotions aren’t a wreck. I can sit still. I can enjoy a good conversation with a friend. I even talk about cravings with my wife. Now, that was something I could never do before! Thanks for making this available. It has really helped my life.
Pornography — More Addictive than Cocaine!
And many recovering drug addicts say it was easier to quit cocaine than to stop pornography addiction.
Along with the endorphins, there are some chemicals released with the shame that accompanies the behavior. These have a tranquilizing and numbing effect. It’s a combination of adrenaline, feel good endorphins, like dopamine, and finished with a tranquilizing effect.
You Think Self Control is Going to Overcome Chemicals Like That?
See, change is dangerous to the brain. The brain fears the unknown. It would rather keep things the same than have to figure out how to survive in a new environment. The feelings of fear when we try to change a behavior are very real. It is the same chemical experience of being chased by a lion.
The only way people usually make it through the gap of change, is if there is something very painful pushing them forward. The brain is wired to avoid pain and seek pleasure. That’s why if there is a strong enough reason to change, people will get through the gap.
Sometimes it’s the pain of a life threatening illness, or a painful consequence that gets someone through the gap. A family member of mine quit smoking when she found out she was pregnant. She had a strong motivator to get through the gap.
Brain Studies show: If you introduce a new thought, with emotion every day for about 30 days, it creates a new neural pathway in the brain. If you continue to reinforce the new thought with emotion for about 90 days, it becomes the primary neural pathway.
Or on a cellular level…
It Becomes Who You Are
The other way to get through the gap, and this is the process you will experience, is to continue to reinforce the new belief system long enough for it to take hold in the brain.
This is what the brain studies have shown: Whenever you think a thought with emotion, it releases chemicals into the body. If you introduce a new thought, with emotion every day for about 30 days, it creates a new neural pathway in the brain.
Does that make sense? It becomes a new habitual thought pattern in the brain. This is how you get through the gap. You continue to reinforce the new emotions until they take hold.
And the studies also show that if you continue to reinforce the new thought with emotion for about 90 days, it becomes the primary neural pathway. Or on a cellular level, it becomes who you are.
Did You Hear That?
You can create lasting change in your life, but you have to know how to work with the machine that you have. You need to learn to understand how your brain works, and how to get what you want from it.
It also means that if someone views pornography, they release powerful chemicals into the body. If they continue to do this over 30 days, it creates a new neural pathway for this habit and if they continue for 90 days, this habit becomes a primary neural pathway in their brain. They literally get wired to keep repeating this habit.
Hey, let’s talk sometime. My recovery is going amazingly well. I take my walks about everyday. I listen to my affirmations frequently but not daily, 4 times per week. Daily is best. I attend my weekly group 12 step meetings. My wife attends the family support group at the same time, adjacent room. That is an amazing and supportive group. Thank you for all you’ve taught in this journey.
The Top 5 Reasons you haven’t taken SERIOUS Action… Until Now
OK, you know that your addiction is destructive. You’ve seen how it’s changed and morphed into something you can neither control or let go of.
I want you to know that I understand the reasons why, up until now, you haven’t taken action to get this handled once and for all.
And it’s OK. Porn addiction is one of the strongest addictions there are (you’ll find out further down in this letter). You’ve made half-hearted attempts to stop it. But you haven’t been successful and that’s pretty common.
I know that you probably haven’t taken serious action to stop this yet because of these 5 reasons, but I want you to know that there’s a SOLUTION to every block and objection your mind puts out there:
Reason 1 – You’re Embarrassed About the Problem and Are Afraid Someone May Find Out.
SOLUTION: You can remain anonymous in this program. All correspondence will be done via email to whatever address you choose. Billing is done through PayPal and they keep your billing information. We will only know you by the name and email address you provide. We treat your privacy seriously. This program is designed to help you in the best way for you.
Reason 2 – You’re Not Ready to Spend the Money.
SOLUTION: The investment for the program is less than the cost of a sandwich a day for a month. Or about a gallon of gas a day for a month. Or the price of a new cellphone. With the money back guarantee, there is absolutely no risk. But the real question is:
How much will it cost you to not take action? How much is another month of your life worth? How much is your emotional and spiritual health worth? How much are your relationships worth? If you don’t take action, what will be different next week, next month, next year? You have already wired your brain for this habit. If you don’t make a focused and consistent effort to rewire it, expecting change is insanity.
Reason 3 – You Think You Can Fix the Problem Yourself.
SOLUTION: You can’t fix it yourself, therefore you need help from a professional who will support you every step of the way. If you could fix this yourself, it would have happened a long time ago. If self control was the solution, there wouldn’t be a problem. Einstein was not a dummy.
He himself said: “No problem can be solved by the same level of consciousness that created it.” On the wall of many Alcoholics Anonymous meeting rooms is a sign that reads: “Your best intentions got you here.” If you could have fixed this, you would have. It’s time to get some help to break porn addiction.
Reason 4 – You’ve Tried and Failed at Other Programs.
SOLUTION: This is unlike any other program you’ve tried, because it addresses the CORE of your problem: your thinking and internal beliefs. Sure, some people are skeptical if this will help them or not. Like I said before, the tricks and techniques rarely help people long term.
It can help in the moment, but unless you make a long term effort to rewire your emotional belief system, no program will work. You must go to the root of the problem, and then the results change. This is long term lifestyle change. It takes long term support to stop porn addiction.
Reason 5 – You Aren’t Ready to Change Yet.
SOLUTION: Give it some time. When it hurts bad enough, come back. We will welcome you into the program.
Just remember, you can never get enough of something you don’t need. It’s an empty quest, and when you get to that point when it’s not fun anymore, there is hope. It’s just a lot better to start the reprogramming now, before you engrain your brain with more of the images. It just leaves more work to undo it later.
I have gone longer without a mishap than since I married my wife. While I recently messed up again, I see myself constantly improving and the temptations are almost always vacant. I notice the chemical reactions and changes far more now, and I am almost always doing things that are substituting them, and they are working beautifully. I am more balanced than I have ever been in my life.
Replacing the Bad Program your Brain is running with a Good Program that results in Lasting Changes
I tell my clients this all the time: The machine is not broken. It just has been running on a bad program. It is running the bad program perfectly. We just need to put a good program in place.
So How Do You Do This? How Do You Create Lasting Change?
I like to look at how we learned in the first place. Consider this…
You were born in a body you didn’t create, to parents you didn’t choose. You showed up on a place on the planet, at a time in history, into a culture, and a religion, and a family that wasn’t your doing.
You had to figure out how to survive in an environment first physically, and later emotionally. People started telling you how to stand, and how to dress, and when and where to relieve yourself. They told you how to talk and how to think, and they said to you over and over:
Until you eventually said: I am.
Before you had any say, the programs were put in place. And some of those programs don’t serve you.
You learned primarily in two ways:
First, through peak emotional experiences. When something happened that was dangerous, or exciting, or sad, or scary, the event was anchored in the neural pathways of your brain, and in your body.
This was done to keep you alive. If something was dangerous, or painful, your brain would help you avoid this in the future. If something was pleasant, you would be drawn to repeat that activity.
And second, through repetition. Through repetitive training, mostly unintentional repetitive training, you were taught to act like your family. For good or for bad, you had to learn to survive in that environment. You adopted many of their belief systems.
You Began to Develop an Emotional Self Image. This is How You Emotionally View Yourself.
The amazing part about this emotional self image is that you get in life what fits this self image. If something shows up that is bigger than this self image, you will get it out of your life. If something shows up smaller, you will declare that you are better than that, and seek out what fits this self image.
I know someone who won the lottery when she was young. It was more money than what fit her self image. She started giving it away and eventually got rid of it and got back to her self image of being just above broke.
Another friend had a self image that people took advantage of him. He was the nicest guy, and always gave people the benefit of the doubt, but over and over, people would cheat him.
I heard one woman comment that when people got married they “just grew old and fat together”, because that’s what her parents had done. Sure enough, she had a weight problem.
And the thing about this emotional self image is that we didn’t choose it. It chose us. It was just how we learned to cope and survive our environment. These are usually not conscious choices. Even when we become aware of it, they continue to run.
And they will continue to run, unless we actively reprogram them!!
So how do we reprogram the self image? The same way we learned in the first place.
Peak emotional experiences – where we feel positive emotions around what we want to experience, and we continue to reinforce these feelings every day. And through repetition of the beliefs we want to create.
Remember that people said to you over and over: you are, you are, you are… until you eventually said: “I am!”
We take this same method and use it to incorporate new beliefs and emotions that serve you.
I am humbled by Tony’s kindness and generosity. So if you would like a review, please know that I love the program, have seen real results and change in my life, and will be referring others to his program that I hear about that are struggling with pornography addiction for the rest of my life. I sincerely hope that you and Tony and your families have a marvelous blessings. You certainly deserve it.
Affirmations: Those that actually work
Many people are aware of using the process of affirmations to create new beliefs, but what happens when we start putting new beliefs in the brain it releases different chemicals than we are used to. After a few days, the brain and body go on strike. They want their old chemicals.
Remember the gap that I talked about.
The brain will create all kinds of emotions of resistance and depression, and craving, and doubt. Very strong emotions designed to get us back to the old place that was safe for our brain.
Most people don’t feel like doing positive affirmations in this space, so they stop doing them and go back to the old belief system. This leaves them in a place of despair.
What I have found after working very closely with hundreds of people through this process is that you need to have automatic systems in place to help you through the gap.
Things you can do whether you feel like it or not, because there will be times when you don’t feel like it.
What Clients got in the original $1,000.00 Program… And the same level of help you can get for a FRACTION of that
1. Music for Your Brain
I have put together the technology where we record your voice speaking the new beliefs to yourself, and then we mix your voice with Mozart music. Mozart music has been proven in studies to stimulate the left and right sides of the brain while you are listening. Using special words and phrases that I’ve developed, you can literally reprogram your brain with new beliefs and emotions -thereby changing your behavior.
2. Audio Reprogramming
In addition I created an audio program that helps people implement these steps in their lives. It is a 21 day program to help you create lasting change. Thousands of people have had amazing results by using this program to help them get through the gap and reprogram their emotional self image.
But do you want to know the challenge?
3. Weekly Calls
You get a weekly call. Most people can’t get themselves through the gap. That’s why people would hire me to personally coach them along the way. Each week we would talk, and it would keep them on track with their goals. It would remind them of the process. Each week they would learn how to fully incorporate it in their lives. And over about 90 days, they would start to experience miraculous results.
By having a weekly phone conversation, it would keep them on track. If they fell off track that week, it would get them back on track. The weekly call made all the difference to them. It was the support structure they needed to keep moving forward.
But I can only talk to a few people a week.
I contemplated this dilemma for a couple of years. I knew about tools and processes that really help people to change. But there is only one of me and I can only talk to one person at a time.
The other common concerns that came up were:
- People wanted to remain anonymous.
- Some people couldn’t handle going online at all.
- Many of the other online programs were expensive.
- Coaching with me one on one was very expensive.
Tony’s “Cure the Craving” program is phenomenal! I found this program to be incredibly insightful into the causes of porn addiction. While other programs and books talk only about the “how” to combat pornography viewing and sexually acting out, Tony’s program goes deeper to get to the root-cause of the addiction: the “why”. Tony has done his homework on the topic of porn addiction and is able to present the information in a way that is clear, concise, and easy to implement. And that’s the beauty of it! Using the methods and insights in Tony’s program, you will be taken to the source of your conflict and work from the inside out. By implementing the “Cure the Craving” principles you not only will learn how to stop your compulsive behavior, but you will earn a whole new respect for yourself that will allow you to reach new levels of success in your life. And you’ll be given the motivation to do it!
The Breakthrough Secret Weapon — Group Training Calls
Then it came to me. I discovered that I could set up conference lines and take several people at a time through this process. In a one to many format, I could give them a step by step system, one week at a time, and keep them in the game. Keep them moving towards the changes they wanted.
Keep them on track. It gave them the support they needed. It gave them real tools for real change. I could teach them the new beliefs, one idea at a time, one week at a time. Brick by brick, they would build a new house and break porn addiction completely.
It was also a lot easier for people struggling with this challenge to get on the phone, instead of getting online. They could break the habit away from the place of challenge and then eventually get back to using the internet in healthy ways.
And using all of the tools of reprogramming available, they would begin the long journey of rewiring their brain. This time with a program that served them. With a program to have joy in their life.
The first groups of people paid almost $1,000 to be a part of this program. And they got remarkable results. Real change in their life. No quick fix, wishy washy testimonials. Real lifestyle changes.
I knew I had to get the price down to a range that everyone could afford.
I have named your new streamlined program:
“Cure The Craving”
Here’s what you’ll learn through my “Cure the Craving” Program
What’s in Every Call?
In one word – TRUCKLOADS!
Here’s just a small sample of what you’ll learn, an in the order you’ll learn it:
- 4 things you DON’T HAVE to do + 1 that you MUST do for the program to work.
What are the 7 fears that can pop up PLUS an on-the-spot short simple exercise to get rid of them.
- The different motivations that draws a person to pornography
The three chemicals that make pornography the drug of choice in the 21st century.
- How to create a new belief about who you are and what you can be.
Why it’s completely possible for you to have a healthy fulfilling life – physically healthy, emotionally healthy, financially healthy, and spiritually healthy. Find out WHY for “sexual addiction recovery” to be PERMANENT, a program needs to address the WHOLE man, not just the sexual aspect.
- What to do when cravings show up, rather than just sitting there and enduring it, … then do this instead.
Get a tool, UNIQUE to Tony’s program so you can have your own affirmations, complete with background music that triggers both left and right hemispheres of the brain. NO OTHER PROGRAM OFFERS THIS INCREDIBLY POWERFUL LEVERAGE. Many programs give the IN-formation for the left brain but lack the TRANS-formation which also requires the right brain.
- Three activities that have helped hundreds in sexual bondage break free and why they work.
How to handle the withdrawal process that comes with masturbation.
- You will learn a powerful technique that stills the chatter of the mind.
Equipment you can use so you can meditate like a Zen monk at the touch of a button – in a fraction of the time-easily and effortlessly. This tool takes you through this process of decompressing your emotional nervous system by taking your brain to this place of rejuvenation and it takes your body to this deep settled relaxing place. And all you do is sit back and listen.
- How particular healthy behaviors reprogram your brain for a new way of life and income.
What are the various unmet emotional needs and triggers which cause destructive behavior; How to analyze triggers so you can deal with them.
- How reprogram yourself when you have emotional wounds, trauma and abuse.
Learn when and why sexual fantasies are harmful.
- How a certain scientific experiment done with dogs give us a clue what’s happening within your mind.
Why you set a powerful goal and then do everything in your power not to reach the goal so it creates a disconnect and there is cognitive dissonance between what you visualize and what you get… and how to turn this around.
- How to break the shame cycle and stop feeling bad about yourself.
- A simple tool that works every time … and people have paid Tony THOUSANDS for it!
Uncovering fears, beliefs, self-image and life pattern issues … and what to do to break them.
- WHO to be transparent with and who NOT to be. This is CRITICAL for first recovery and then wholeness. I explain the details, ins and outs, advantages and disadvantages of who to choose. The difference between watching porn with a spouse vs. viewing it in secret. The effects on marriage. WARNING: There may be shocks in store here.
- How to deal with withdrawal systems.
How to make yearnings productive. How to fulfill the emptiness on an ongoing basis.
- Why those who get hooked on pornography are also those who can turn that very personal characteristic that hooked them …into being some of the most successful people on earth. The answer will both surprise you and give you incredible hope.
The single greatest key to healing and restoration and how to get it and apply it.
- Incredible insights and advice from one of the leading experts in the country in men’s health & sexual dysfunctions. This expert uses scientific studies.
Which internet filters are effective and why
- How diet effects your craving and the best things to eat to help stabilize your emotions.
How and when you can become more emotionally stable
- The tools that spell the difference between victory and defeat.
The 6 things you really want, but turn to porn instead. Learn how to quench your craving for these 6 things in a healthy way.
- How sleep affects your cravings and the best kind and amount of sleep to get in order to speed your healing.
Insights from the foremost expert in neurolinguistic programming (NLP) in the country, so you can make changes with what you tell yourself. The only permanent way to fill the void
Hey Tony, just wanted to drop you a line really quick and say that I have been getting some very awesome clarity from your program recently. I started a week late, but it’s been very good. I used the lifeline for the first time today and it was powerful. I realized that some of my emotions driving my porn addiction was fear that I’ll be left behind. I walked into my body and let God in. I was filled with abundance and it was a new experience. The other thing that has made all the difference in the world has been separating my real self from my behaviors. It has given me strength like I can’t explain. Thanks again for letting me join the program. I heard your call tonight and wanted to share with everyone some of the success. You’re stellar. Look forward to some more great experiences walking through the pain and learning about what it’s telling me.
Here is how it works
When you sign up for my “Cure the Craving” program, you’ll get:
1) 9 Months of Weekly Group Coaching Calls…
Every week, you get on a conference call with me. The calls last about an hour. In a one to many setting, I will take you through the steps of porn addiction recovery that have worked for others. Real long term change.
Each week, we will build on the ideas from the previous weeks. You will reinforce the new beliefs over and over. We will discuss your belief systems. We will talk about how the brain works when creating change in your life. We will talk about emotions and compulsive behaviors.
In this no holds barred conversation; (and I even address the Big M that nobody likes to mention – MASTURBATION) you will take a good look inside and see what has been driving your behavior. You will implement simple tools that really work to rewire the belief systems.
We will talk about dealing with breakdowns. How to handle emotions. What to do when you know you will be in a challenging environment. How to handle cravings. What are your triggers.
We will discuss tools for creating healthy releases. You will create the vision of the life you want to experience. You will put a plan in place that you can live on a daily basis to make that vision a reality. You will get in touch with what has been going on inside you. You will face fears that have held you back in the past.
I found with the first groups that went through this process that sometimes people had questions come up along the way. They wanted a place where they could bring this up. Many of the questions were similar, and it helped to hear what others were experiencing.
So to as an added benefit of the program, I decided that one week a month, I would dedicate the call to a question and answer session. I would open the lines, and you can bring any question you want to the table. In an anonymous setting, people can ask questions and bring up sensitive subjects and get answers. Nothing is off limits on the Q&A calls.
In addition to the weekly call, I found that sometimes people need a little reminder. A little something to keep their head in the game.
2) The 10 Minute Call
I set up an additional call each week, that lasts only about 10 minutes, where they can have a quick check in to see how they have been doing that week. It’s done in the same one to many format as the weekly call, so they can call in and keep their vision clear in between the weekly calls.
Remember what the studies said about change in the brain? If you introduce a new thought, with emotion every day for about 30 days, it creates a new neural pathway in the brain.
Does that make sense? It becomes a new habitual thought pattern in the brain. This is how you get through the gap. You continue to reinforce the new emotions until they take hold.
And the studies also show that if you continue to reinforce the new thought with emotion for about 90 days, it becomes the primary neural pathway. Or on a cellular level, it becomes who you are.
Over the 90 days, you will continually reinforce the emotions you want to experience. You will continually reinforce the vision of the life you want to live. You will reprogram yourself the same way you learned as a child. And by sticking with it, you create lasting change.
3) The Lifeline call
Many of the people that worked with me commented that there were times when the cravings were really strong. Times when they could just use some extra help to get through a tough situation. My personal clients would call me in these moments, and I would help them get back on track.
Through the technology we use, I have created a call that is available 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Its called the Lifeline Call. This is a short call that will talk you through tough moments of sexual addiction support and get you back on track. As a participant in the program, you can call the Lifeline Call as often as you want. Whenever you need a little help refocusing, this powerful tool is available.
Change is all about re-training the brain to react differently. These tools give you the support structure to do this training.
4) The 21 Day Audio Program
The people that used all of the tools, in addition to the weekly calls seemed to get the best result.
So as a bonus to the 90 Days to Create Lasting Change, I am including the 21 day program download and the customized affirmations. Just these two tools sell for $170.00 on my website.
So as a recap, Cure the Craving Program includes:
- 1 Hour weekly call to put your plan together and execute it one week at a time
- Monthly Question and Answer session with me
- And as a bonus, a 10-Min weekly check in call to keep you on track
- Lifeline Call
- Water Weed Repeat, 21 Days to Reprogram Your Self Image and Create Lasting Change
- Personal Customized Affirmations
I love this program. I used to feel like I had to compete with porn in order to have a relationship with my husband. I didn’t realize that this addiction is deeper than just looking at women. It has a lot less to do with me than I thought.
This program has helped me to communicate with my husband in a way that doesn’t make him feel ashamed, and lets me express myself. I learned how to help him, and what not to do. I was surprised to learn how I used to make this worse for him in the past.
I feel like for the first time we are on the same page. We connect in ways that we never did before. I have my marriage back. Thanks Tony for all that you do.
I’ve seen Miracles
I have seen powerful changes. Miracles. Not every single person experiences a miraculous turn-around, but most make excellent progress and that gives me hope.
Creating lasting change. That is what this is about. And it will take a long term approach. No quick fix. Real change. Are you ready for that?
I’m looking for real change. A new emotional world. A real, ongoing connection with God. Just you and God working out your junk.
But I’m looking for real change. A new emotional world. A real, ongoing connection with God. Just you and God working out your junk.
So if You’re Ready to Take This Journey…
If you want to wallow around in your filth a little longer, then choose that. Choose it. Don’t let it choose you. Choose the behavior.
Remember, You Have Nothing to Lose…
If You Act Now.
If you don’t, it will only be harder later…
Create the change you can believe in. Start now… And live the life you want in the future.
It’s your life… right? Take control today.